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I’m totally sneaking in here… I just wanted to say hello to everyone; see (some/most) of you in a couple of days. At my wedding. With myself and my best friend Lisa. Last night we were talking on the phone since she’s hidden away in Franklin and I don’t get to see her as much anymore (until Saturday), and I told her that I’m starting to get that nervous/anxious thing- that I’m starting to think about everything and about all of the family being in town, and I’m going ‘Hey, wait a minute, I’m getting married this weekend.’
I spent some time laying in bed awake thinking about it. Stormy, who obviously didn’t care at all about my fragile emotional state, was out cold before she even hit her bed. I spent some time thinking about downgrading her from ‘Man’s best friend’ to ‘Man’s acquaintance.’
11 Days
Less than two weeks. Almost two work weeks; a pay period. Someone asked me when it was that I was getting married and I said ‘Not this weekend; the next weekend.’ And I thought, that’s crazy when you think about it. Lisa and I have been looking at a little calendar square for almost a year now; counting down for what seems like an eternity. It’s hard to believe that it’s right around the corner, literally, figuratively, or however you want to categorize it. Lisa and I will be standing in front of our guests in 11 days, saying ‘I will’ and ‘I do.’
And then from there on out saying things like ‘I am’ and ‘we are.’
Three Months
Hello People. It’s Matt. Long time no read.
Lisa and I have been together for one year as of last Saturday. A lot of things have happened to me over the course of that year; I moved twice. I was promoted at work. I saw the Smokey Mountains. I went to Knoxville. I watched and learned about Ultimate Frisbee. I went to Asheville. I saw the Biltmore. I ate at Rafferty’s for the first (and hopefully the last time) in my life. I started going to Christ Presbyterian Church. I met a LOT of people and made a lot of friends. I learned about weimaraners. I played with a weimaraner. I cleaned up after, yelled at, was bitten/scratched/tackled by, and danced around with a weimaraner.
I also learned a lot of things. I found a lot of love in my life that I hadn’t seen before.
It was, after all of that, a very humbling year. And every second of it was because of Lisa. I can’t imagine any other person that I would rather spend the rest of my life with. After her, and her family, and all of their generosity and love, and going to church with her, and spending nearly every waking moment of every day with her, I can honestly look back at the last year and feel overwhelmed with the anticipation of every moment of the next year, and the one after that.
Last night I wrestled with the sprinkler in the back yard, soaked my pantleg, sprayed the dog, assembled a spreader, and spread pesticide in the yard. I’m pretty close to being fully domesticated I think. Hopefully the yard will still be green and living when I get home from work today.
What color should the spatula be?

Lisa and I spent all day yesterday walking around stores creating our wedding registry. These stores are Macy’s, Target, and Bed, Bath and Beyond; in that order. We got up pretty early and basically got all of the pre-registry jitters out with coffee and cereal and Sherry, the nice lady in the Macy’s china department, who was, despite being understaffed and slammed all morning, sporting a very good attitude. I learned a lot of things about how registries work. I was really surprised at how easy it was to do; we filled out maybe a sheet of paper or so, they handed us the scanner, and we were released like the masters of homemaking bliss that we really hope we are. More than anything else, I was surprised at how many times I saw something and thought highly of it solely on the basis that my parents had one, or that my mom had recommended it in the past to me. I can’t really imagine having to make a registry without input from parents, whether it’s asked for or not; just having the experience of watching your parents buying things for their home makes all the difference in the world.
Target was alright. I think Lisa and I both looked at Target as our little catch-all safety net, but after Macy’s and before Bed, Bath and Beyond, we found ourselves skipping what we registered for at Macy’s and also skipping things we wanted to save for Bed, Bath. We left with maybe 50 items on our registry, which I’m sure some high-brow Target elitist will probably scoff at later. I didn’t register for any power-tools, cds, dvds, or video games; there aren’t any gag items either. As we were leaving, I told Lisa that I regretted not putting a Polaroid camera on there.
The last stop was Bed, Bath and Beyond, who were really interesting. They spent a lot of time trash talking Macy’s, we had to wait the longest to set up our registry and their scanner was the most complicated. They were really nice though. The lady who set us up was a little more intrusive than either Lisa or I probably would have liked her to be. She followed us around at the beginning, and she kept pushing high dollar crystal gift ideas on us and giving us reasons why our guests would want to get us a crystal vase instead of a toaster or a coffee press or something that we actually wanted. After she wandered away, Lisa and I spent mostly the rest of the day walking around methodically scanning and debating colors and items. We probably walked out of there with the most items registered, but for good reason; Bed, Bath and Beyond had the most of what we’ll probably really come to need when we figure out where to live. Lisa, after walking around most of the day, was basically suffering from low blood sugar, tired of walking around in circles, and both of us were pretty much retail-ed out.
Eating at Logan’s afterward, we sort of marveled at the fact that we accomplished all of that in one day, without fighting at all over colors or wants, and without any real snags or hiccups. We were pretty much totally exhausted, but we made it.
I’m going to go ahead and encourage everyone to start looking at the registries now. There were a lot of things, especially at Macy’s, that are on sale now, and that can be ordered online, so everyone should try to take advantage of that if possible. We tried to keep budgets in mind (both ours and yours). There’s a pretty healthy variety to pick from. I know that we won’t get all of it; at this point I’m just happy that we can move on to the next thing on the list: invitations (which I made earlier this week), flowers, tuxes, and finding a place to live.
Links: Macy’s, Bed, Bath and Beyond, and Target.
Hello.
You may have been surfing along “the net” and come across all of this wohlgemutay business. There’s been a giant spike in traffic in the last few days; I’m mostly attributing that to all of the save the date postcards we sent out last week. I thought it would be tactful to say hello to the new folks.
Hi.
Lisa and I are going to be married on an estate in Nashville, TN. It’s historical. It’s beautiful. It’s outside. You’ll love it. I promise. After the ceremony, we’ll all be eating at Saffire in Franklin, TN. We’re renting a room. It’ll be private. This will be prime ‘meet the family’ time, since, at that point, we’ll all be family. I’m excited about this. I can’t wait for that. We’ll eat and talk about ourselves and get to know one another. We’ll do the name game or something –ice breakers. It’ll be like the first day of school all over again.
Lisa and I are in the process of figuring out logistics for those attending; we’ll have a list of hotels and maps and the whole nine yards. I’m hoping that we’ll have everything set up so that getting around and dealing with all of that stuff will be as easy as possible for everyone coming.
Of the two main “Before you marry my daughter, you’ve got to…” stipulations, we’re nearly finished with Dave Ramsay’s Financial Peace University and we’ve got two more sessions of marriage counselling left. Both of those things have been hugely entertaining and informative. Our marriage counselling is hands down the best part of my week every week. We’re going to be working on our invitations, the flowers and figuring out where it is we’ll be heading the day after we get married. Probably someplace warm. Because Lisa likes beaches. And as the compliant future husband, I have no problem with that.
Have a nice week. Thanks for stopping by. To be continued.
One down…
Yesterday, Matt & I created, printed, addressed, stamped, and mailed our SAVE THE DATES! NEXT…find a reception location.
Happy Easter everyone!
Drum roll please.
October 18th, 2008.
We’ve got our location, her dress, bridesmaids dresses, and the photographer. Flowers and reception location are next on the list. Then the gentlemen and I will get our fancy pants taken care of. After that, we’re pretty much in countdown mode.
214 days. And counting.
I know

Last night Lisa and I were running across the street behind the Exit/In and the wind was blowing so hard that I thought we might blow away into the sky. The wind was so loud it overpowered all of the other sounds of the city. We started to run as fast as we could until we got to my car, where we both attempted to pry the doors open and pile in. We sort of sat there for a moment, both of us looking out through the windshield, our hair all blown in all directions, both of us gasping and trying to put ourselves back together.
We looked at each other and I said what I always say to her at moments like that.
And I knew that I’d be remembering that moment forever.
Things

Things are still moving along, I promise. Lisa has been trying to focus on her part time job, search for a new job, get ready for an interview tomorrow, get over sinus sickness, and put up with stormy the chewing machine and myself.
We’re still trying to get everything put together. It’s been really trying dealing with finding the right location and the right cost. We have two more potential locations to look at in Asheville, which we’ll be doing this upcoming weekend. We’re also looking into joining our church here in Nashville to become full-fledged members and having the wedding here.
Of course, all of this is in progress.
The good, great, amazing news is Jay and Jill Clarke have agreed to help us with marriage counselling. The Clarke’s lead the bible study that Lisa and I attend on Sunday’s after church, and have been incredibly insightful on all sorts of things. We had lunch with them at their house after church yesterday and they agreed to counsel us, which, honestly, appears to have them as excited about it as we are. I don’t think we could have found a better couple to mentor us and pray with us about our marriage. I’m thankful that they are in our lives and that they want to continue to be in our lives.
Other than that, things are great. We’re super busy around here. We’re both looking forward to getting out of town again for a few days and seeing family. I think it’s going to be good to have her folks along with us in Asheville. I’m looking forward to seeing her folks. And right now I’m looking forward to seeing Lisa tonight when she gets out of work. I always look forward to that.
